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Excerpt
from the chapter:
How to Get the Man You Want to Marry You
For years I have been interviewing men, looking to find what
is really important to them in a relationship. The most
popular response was good sex. The complaints range from
women not knowing or willing to perform oral sex to their
satisfaction, to not getting enough sex. Some even
complained that their women had let themselves go and were
simply not sexy enough. When I asked most married men or men
who were in a committed relationship what their women wore
to bed, the highest percentage said (and not very happily)
shorts and a tee shirt. Ladies, I know shorts and tee shirts
are comfortable, but have you really looked at yourself
lately or do you just jump into bed? I suggest that the next
time you get dressed for bed, take a long, hard look in the
mirror. What you see is probably a lot less appealing to
your man. We already know that men live for fantasy. They go
to strip clubs, watch porn; they live for fantasy. We need
to incorporate a little bit of fantasy into our everyday
lives. When you give your man that fantasy, he will enjoy
coming home to you. Don't make your man feel as if he has to
hide his porn collection. Men love women they can be
themselves around. Show him that you are open-minded. If you
really want to spice up your sex life, suggest selecting
movies together and then enjoy watching them together. Your
man will love you for it. If you have the ability to make
your man feel like the man, he's not going anywhere. Men who
are totally fulfilled are less likely to cheat.
Keep a clean house. This is extremely important. Men are
comfortable in clean environments. If your home is filthy,
your man may not say anything but he notices. Always look at
your home through a visitior's eye. Avoid having dirty
dishes in the sink, keep all wastebaskets throughout the
house emptied (especially in the bathroom). Keep bathrooms
and fixtures clean, mirrors streak-free. Keep any personal
items you don't want guests to see in a separate area or
storage closet. These items include sanitary items, tampons
or pads, douche or any other feminine hygiene products. This
also includes any prescription medications. If you do not
want your man to know that you are on antidepressants, don't
keep it in your medicine cabinet.
For example, my girlfriend, Tonya called me crying after her
first date with Kevin. She described in detail how wonderful
the date was. "After dinner he took me home," she said, "and
I invited him in for a drink. We were connecting, the lights
were low and the music was grooving. Kevin was in a playful
mood and he was singing to me. Then he asked to use the
restroom. The entire time he was in the bathroom, I kept
trying to remember if there was anything in there I wouldn't
want him to see. Then I thought about my prescription yeast
infection medication that was in the medicine cabinet. I
just know he looked through my things, he was in there for
an awfully long time. Then when he came out, he made an
excuse that he had to leave. His whole demeanor had changed.
I am so afraid he saw something that turned him off."
Since Kevin never called her again, it's safe to say that he
didn't get a sudden case of diarrhea from dinner, but
probably saw something in her bathroom that turned him off.
Tonya later realized what that something was; there was an
empty condom wrapper in her wastebasket. Now Tonya knew
better; all my girlfriends know the rules. Your bathroom
should always be the one room in your home that is always up
to standards. Your guest could ask to use it at anytime and
because it is such a personal room, they can learn a lot
about you just by checking out what is in there. Since they
are behind locked doors, they have time to go through
everything. When we visit a man's home you know what we do.
We check the trash, medicine cabinet, and bathtub drain for
strands of hair. I have even gone so far as to check the
condition of a man's toothbrush. If his toothbrush is not
well kept, and it is grimy and all worn-out, it sends the
message that he will put anything in his mouth. |
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